Yes, in psychology we call it “titration.” The trick is remembering that we can’t control or predict how someone will feel. I like your example of letting them lead.
This maps onto something concrete in fermentation, not just as metaphor. In mead-making, staggered nutrient additions exist because dosing everything a yeast needs in one shot — even if every input is correct — stresses the culture enough to stall or kill the batch. Same nutrients, wrong sequence, dead fermentation. The recipe was never the problem.
It's all about the perception. How you see it, how I see it, and how does somebody not in our circle see it? The art critic Robert Cumming thought the painting by the Renaissance master Lippi looked wrong, with Saints Dominic and Jerome looking awkward. He then had the epiphany that he was looking at it at eye level and realized that it was meant to be viewed from a position of prayer. As soon as he knelt, everything looked right. What perspective am I offering? I always try to remember this.
Bryan, this really resonated with me. I especially appreciated the idea of sequencing truth instead of simply unloading it.
One thought it stirred in me is that before dosage comes source. I’ve learned that I can say something that is factually true, yet if it’s flowing from my frustration, insecurity, or need to be understood, it often lands very differently than truth that has first been surrendered to God.
I’ve found that transparency and unloading aren’t the same thing. Sometimes what feels like honesty is really my soul looking for relief. Love asks a deeper question: Is this truth coming from a heart that has already been with the Father?
The source shapes the delivery. Then wisdom shapes the timing.
Yes, in psychology we call it “titration.” The trick is remembering that we can’t control or predict how someone will feel. I like your example of letting them lead.
This maps onto something concrete in fermentation, not just as metaphor. In mead-making, staggered nutrient additions exist because dosing everything a yeast needs in one shot — even if every input is correct — stresses the culture enough to stall or kill the batch. Same nutrients, wrong sequence, dead fermentation. The recipe was never the problem.
It's all about the perception. How you see it, how I see it, and how does somebody not in our circle see it? The art critic Robert Cumming thought the painting by the Renaissance master Lippi looked wrong, with Saints Dominic and Jerome looking awkward. He then had the epiphany that he was looking at it at eye level and realized that it was meant to be viewed from a position of prayer. As soon as he knelt, everything looked right. What perspective am I offering? I always try to remember this.
Amen, and I love that story about Cumming. Perception is everything!
Titration is the way.
Wow, I don't think I heard that word since high school chemistry. Had to look it up again. That's a great word for it!
Bryan, this really resonated with me. I especially appreciated the idea of sequencing truth instead of simply unloading it.
One thought it stirred in me is that before dosage comes source. I’ve learned that I can say something that is factually true, yet if it’s flowing from my frustration, insecurity, or need to be understood, it often lands very differently than truth that has first been surrendered to God.
I’ve found that transparency and unloading aren’t the same thing. Sometimes what feels like honesty is really my soul looking for relief. Love asks a deeper question: Is this truth coming from a heart that has already been with the Father?
The source shapes the delivery. Then wisdom shapes the timing.
Thanks for another thoughtful piece.
G~
Love this. Drawing from something bigger than ourselves before reacting is a wonderful way to look at it.